Thursday, August 22, 2013

Our Behavior Chart System

About a year ago, we were dealing with some really big anger and emotion control issues with our oldest. We sought out some counseling and it turned out to be one of the best things we have ever done for our parenting skills. We learned a ton and we are able to use what we learned with our other kids. 

One thing our therapist recommended was implementing the same behavior system that was used in Jack's school class. He responded well to it at school, so why not use the same thing at home? So I did just that. And yes, it works well for us. We use it with our whole family. 

I just realized I spelled "privilege" wrong on our chart! Oh well!

This is our Clip Up chart. The clips all start in the middle everyday and get "clipped up" or "clipped down" depending on their behavior. What they end the day with is what they get for the entire day. When they get 3 "way to go's" (I put an "X" on the Post-Its when they get a "way to go"), they get to pick out of the prize basket. They don't have to be in a row. It usually takes my boys 4 days to get 3 "way to go's". When they end the day on "loss of privilege", they get their bike, scooter and video games taken away until they end a day with "way to go". This has only happened once or twice. They learn real quick that it sucks to get a "loss of privilege". 

This works well for us. And I have a few friends that do the same thing and it works for them. Yes, it takes maintenance. You have to keep up with it, but any parenting thing requires that. When I am good at keeping up with this, we have great days. It's worth it to me.

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